HOW TO DEAL WITH UNFORGIVENESS

Hello friends, Some days ago we delt with HOW TO DEAL WITH HEART BREAK. I am gratful to God for the responses, the mails, the pings and for all those who God healed. TODAY am going to be sharing with you: HOW TO DEAL WITH UNFORGIVENESS
Many people ruin their health and their lives by taking the poison of bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness. Matthew 18:23-35 tells us that if we do not forgive people, we get turned over to the torturers. If you have a problem in this area or have ever had one, I'm sure you bear witness with what I'm saying. It's torture to have hateful thoughts toward another person rolling around inside your head. Some years ago I and a seniour colleague was prayer for a woman about a particular issue. We prayed and prayed and yet we were not sensing a release. The Spirit of God ministered to us that someone hurt the woman so badly and she resolved never to forgive the person. So we stopped the prayer and told the woman what the Spirit of God was saying. She responded by saying ' Pastor, you are right but if that is the only option I rather die with this problem. She started weeping uncontrollably. We gave her some time alone. She finally screamed I forgive you... We continued the prayer and that was it, God settled the issue. There was a release. Who are you helping most when you forgive the person who hurt you? Actually, you're helping yourself more than the other person. Unforgiveness makes you the Tortured, and at the same time the Torturer! You become both the tormented and at the same time the tormentor.Would you like to become more successful at forgiving others? There are practical steps that must be taken.
1. Decide – You will never forgive if you wait until you feel like it. Choose to obey God and steadfastly resist the devil in his attempts to poison you with bitter thoughts. Make a quality decision to forgive, and God will heal your wounded emotions in due time (see Matthew 6:12-14).

2. Depend – You cannot forgive without the power of the Holy Spirit. It's too hard to do on your own. If you are truly willing, God will enable you, but you must humble yourself and cry out to Him for help. In John 20:22-23 Jesus breathed on the disciples and said, "Receive the Holy Spirit!" His next instruction was about forgiving people. Ask God to breathe the Holy Spirit on you so you can forgive those who've hurt you.

3. Obey – The Word tells us several things we're to do concerning forgiving our enemies:

a. Pray for your enemies and those who abuse and misuse you. Pray for their happiness and welfare (see Luke 6:27-28). As you pray, God can give them revelation that will bring them out of deception. They may not even be aware they hurt you, or maybe they're aware but are so self-centered that they don't care. Either way, they need revelation.

b. …Bless and do not curse them (Romans 12:14). In the Greek to bless means "to speak well of" and to curse means "to speak evil of." You can't walk in forgiveness and be a gossip. You must stop repeating the offense. You can't get over it if you continue to talk about it. Proverbs 17:9 says that he who covers an offense seeks love.
READ | Matthew 6:9-15.
Scripture clearly teaches that we are to forgive those who hurt us. So let’s identify practical ways to confront the matter of unforgiveness head-on. You may want to keep this list in your Bible or close by for easy review.

1. Take it seriously. Unforgiveness is a major issue that shouldn’t be casually dismissed.

2. Assume full responsibility. Don’t blame anyone else for your feelings or actions.

3. Confess it honestly. Be specific and direct with God about what you feel, and acknowledge that unforgiveness is sin. Don’t “soften” the matter or let yourself off the hook.

4. Lay down your anger. Unless you deal with your resentment, bitterness can re-enter your life later on.

5. Pray for the other person. This may feel impossible or unnatural, but do it anyway. Praying is a choice to act lovingly, regardless of how you are treated. This will impact your entire relationship.

6. Ask that individual to forgive you. If the other person knows that you’ve been harboring bitterness, you need to ask for his or her forgiveness.

7. Do something nice for that person. Let a loving gesture demonstrate your desire to restore the relationship.

8. Don’t allow Satan to throw you back into unforgiveness. Once the matter is resolved, watch out for stray thoughts that could stir up memories of how the other person hurt you.

This process isn’t easy, but it works. If you go through these steps every time you are hurt, God will truly work miracles in your relationships. Have you been really hurt? Have you been raped? Have been abused? Have you been dissappointed? Have you been heart broken? FORGIVE, because by so doing, you will help yourself to move on..Don't make your heart a Prison, set that person free..don't be an Emotional Prison warder! Let Him or Her go.. Remember! As Long as You keep saying "I will never forgive Him or Her, you are saying "God will never forgive me". When you forgive, you ease your grieve. God bless you. If you have been blessed by this post, or You need to talk to someone, please send a ping to this pin 22054C10. Shalom